Are we raising a ‘NO child’? In the midst of trying to raise a disciplined child, are we burdening the kids with too much of parental pressure? Read on to understand why I say this.

I take my child out everyday in the evening, to a nearby park. There, he is set free to play and explore each and every slide and swing - big or small. The kids in the park are of the age group 1-10, are mostly accompanied by their parents and play under their supervision. Usually I am so caught up while playing with my baby that sometimes I tend to lose touch with my surroundings.

But there was this one sentence that caught my attention – “Mom, you say no to everything I want to do”. A kid (around 4 years old) was saying this to his mom with a sad face.

These words spoken by a little child, made me think and rethink. I wondered if I could also fall in the same category. Would my child also grow up to be a kid who feels like a caged bird? And what could be the reason behind a mom saying NO to his kid?

A two-letter word "NO" has become an integral part of our daily lives when we communicate with our kids. At times, I fail to remember when was the last time I said YES to my child. But, here’s the irony – This wasn’t the case when we were growing up, when we were kids.

We played in the mud, dirtied our clothes, broke crockery, threw stuff all over the room, emptied the whole cupboard on the floor just to find the right dress and so much more. We have done all sorts of naughty things! 

But now when our kids are doing the very same things we say ‘NO’ to them. Maybe its because we’re scared of them falling ill, scared of them hurting themselves or just for our own convenience. Convenience of not wanting to clear the mess they have made all over.

In the name of bringing up a well-disciplined child, maybe we’re killing their childhood. Rather than building a bond of love and friendship with the kids, we are unknowingly making them move away from us.

We have two choices here-
1.     Continue doing what we are doing
2.     Letting the kid free to enjoy himself.
Letting the kid free to enjoy his or her childhood is the best gift that we can give to them. Unlike before the kids these days kids are burdened with too many books, assignments and homework. More than studies these days kids have peer pressure to join classes for different extra curricular activities. As they grow up the time that you get to spend with them reduces and they get stuck in the midst of the worldly madness.

As a parent, we need to concentrate not only on the subjective development of a kid but also on the emotional development. Everyday is a challenge for them and they gain the strength and confidence to outshine only if they are emotionally strong. An emotionally strong person is always ready to fight back the odds. This can only happen when a kid is strong within. He is happy and content from inside and knows his parents are with him whereas it is the opposite for the kid who is used to hearing NO.

A kid who is used to hearing NO will not only refrain himself from developing a friendly bond with his parents but also will be in continuous search of someone from outside with whom he can set himself free. In moments of distress he would be shattered.

So the Choice lies on us what kind of child would we want to raise.




Mohit in Action in ING Amsterdam Global Talent Programme.....





I have read the newly released book of Chetan Bhagat- REVOLUTION 2020......Though i am a huge fan of Chetan Bhagat, this book seemed to me more like a script of Dharma Productions......

Boy and Gal become friends....Boy loves the Gal...Gal doesnt love the boy.....Boy moves to another city for studies and Gal falls in love with the Hero who is Boy's friend......Hero and Gal go around..The Boy is jealous as is madly in love with the Gal.The Gal rejects him and dates his friend the Hero..As in Dharma productions boy is always very poor and doesnt have enough money, aur---saare duniya k dukh use hi hai...he is unable to clear his entrance exam and his father passes away... n then like what happens in the movies..within few months he becomes rich....

The Hero is busy and doesnt have time and the in the meanwhile the Boy becomes villain and takes advantage of it..Both of them (The Gal and the Boy) come close to each other and start dating each other, the Hero totally unaware of it...The Gal realises that she is in love with the Boy and is about to break it up with the Hero...Then comes a twist as in the movies..the conscious of the Boy tells him that he did wrong and got the gal through wrong ways and is a bad boy...Then he does everything to show the Gal that he is bad and Hero is the right guy for her....The Hero and Gal get married.....and the Guy keeps on crying....

I just hated it...

Why such late realization by the Boy...that he was on the wrong track and whatever he did to get the Gal was wrong and the guy who actually deserved the gal is the Hero....and then he creates another plot to bring the hero and gal together.... typical Dharma Productions..

The other day i had seen Chetan Bhagat on television debating on his new book and saying "what i am trying to show through this book is BOY and GAL can never be best friends in real life also"...

Here is what i have to say to Mr.Bhagat------- Mr.Bhagat i am married and i have best friends who are guys...i feel free to call them, talk to them, discuss my problems , share my happiness at any point during the day..... May be Mr.Bhagat you need few friends in your life who are girls who can show you the reality of the world that there is no harm in being friends with the opposite sex and a boy and gal can be best friends.....










Its been an year since I got married to Mohit..Life has been really interesting, challenging in the last 1 year.....

I have changed as a person and i can feel the changes myself...from being very very very careless i have improved and i am just careless now not very very very careless..:)

Its easy to say I love this person and want to get married to him/her asap. But then we don't realize that life is going to totally change...

Of course there are lot of good things that come along with marriage but what also comes along are responsibilities. Life is not the same as it is in the movies..The girl after marriage will be in saree completely decked up with lot of make up, jewellery. Sleeps with jewellery and wears heavy sarees at home..Life seems to be so easy as it is shown in few serials..on the other hand it also not the way how it shown in some other sidey hindi serials..The girl being tortured after marriage. There is a new conspiracy against her in the family...She is not treated well...I really do not know why such serials are made and people like me still watch them knowing that this is no where related to real life....

Ok..so we were discussing about how my life has changed after marriage...Before marriage i was least concerned about what i will eat the next day...Now after marriage i think of what has to be cooked for breakfast, lunch and dinner...Before marriage i used to put up in a PG and most of the time the dinner used to be popcorn or fruits and for a change at times i used to make khicdi and have..After work i used to come and hit the bed.switch on my laptop, switch on the tv and talk to mom or some friend..what i used to do was multi tasking and when i used to feel hungry my food was fruits, popcorn or khichdi.

I used to hardly care if my clothes were ironed or not for next day office........I used to get up decide what to wear and then run around to iron clothes and get ready...used to wash clothes one day before office when i used to realize my wardrobe has no clothes for the next day.. Now after marriage i make sure all the clothes are washed and ironed before the week starts...

My bed used to be so messed up.I used to get up late in the morning and run to get ready for office..never folded the blanket, wet towel lying on the bed, clothes lying and me running around to get ready and reach office on time...never cared about anything...Now the 1st thing that i do is getting up and folding the blanket.making bed properly, hanging the wet towel in the balcony for drying.folding clothes and keeping them in proper place..i hate messed up bed now..

Life has changed in so many other ways and yes changed for good........... and i am glad......when i think of those old days it feels nice but when i see myself now i feel nicer...Its nice to be little messed up during the bachelor days and organized after marriage...









Sometimes i wonder what is the motto of each of ours lives... i used to wonder why do we live...what should i do that makes me happy from within.....what is the purpose of our life...

What is it that makes us happy from within???? i have come across a lot of people who gave me different answers to this.... Some said shopping is something that makes me happy..... some said i like drinking( drink whole day and get away from all thoughts of this world)... even i wondered a lot of times that what is that something that makes me happy each and every time i do it.....

Emmm...... I thought, thought and thought didn't get an answer..... then my mind gave me few answers on which i thought for sometime....is it the flowers ??? because as and when i get flowers a smile comes on my face and makes me happy..but then i thought for some more time on it...and my mind said again...Hello, we are talking about internal happiness and not happiness that comes and fades away..sometimes flowers just bring a smile but do not enlighten my mood from within..

And finally one day i found the answer........Emmm so what do you think it can be........okie let me narrate you a story.......

I have a sweet roomie her name is Ammu... Her birthday was approaching and i being her roommate didn't know what should i do to make her feel special.....

It was 23rd of Dec and both of us where in Bangalore Central (for those who don't know about Bangalore central it is a part of the Central brand, which has malls all over India owned by Pantaloon Retail).She liked a toy that was hanging on the roofs of Central all over and said Neha christmas is approaching y don't you gift me this..I looked at it..It was actually a cute one but then i said leave it...u are grown up lets check out some new clothes in the store..and at the back of my mind i had already planned to get that toy for her on her birthday.. the next thing i did was i went back to central and found out when can i buy it because the toy was on display and was not for sale... they told me that i can come back and buy it in the month of January after the new year's...Hmmm so the plan was in place i had decided to get that toy for her and i got it and kept it at my friend's place.

As her birthday was approaching,i was thinking of giving her a good surprise. Emm the 1st plan that came into my head was telling her that i wont be coming back to the PG tonight and saying that i would be going to a friend's place and then without her knowledge going to the terrace of the PG and decorating it..the other idea was going to the PG with her and then going to the terrace without her knowledge and decorating it with balloons and candles.......i decided to go ahead with the second plan

And then as usual as my plans change at the last minute this one also changed..At exactly 22:00 hrs on 7th January me,piu and nami planned not to celebrate her bday...Hang on...by not celebrating her bday i dont mean not celebrating it at all...But what i mean is not celebrating it in the PG.....the masterminds began to work.....phonecalls....giggles and whispers in room no 12 began....

At around 23:40 hrs at night we woke up our Ammu and asked her to get ready...Me, Piu and Nami were already ready..... Mohit had come to pick up all of us as per the plan and we told Ammu that all of us are going for a long drive...At 23:50 hrs at night Ammu was confused as to where we were taking her...

We took her to a restaurant and she was shocked to see there a table decorated with balloons and frills..... and there weere two other friends of ours Naga and JD... Now how did it all happen...There is a story behind this also....At 23:00hrs Naga and JD had come outside our PG and we gave them the frills, cake and the blown balloons which was blown by Nami and Piu under my supervision after all this was the only place and chance i got where i could use my managerial skills :P... Ok now we had given all the stuff to JD and Naga and they went to the restaurant and decorated it...

Ammu was shocked and to see all that and then we got her cake and the magic candles on the cake which took her lungs out.... And then i gave her the toy she had asked me for and she loved it..... Ammu had also told me that she had to pick up some dress for her birthday and as she wasn't keeping well she couldnt go out for shopping so i took got her a nice party wear also.....

And then Ammu opened a Champaign and then the party began.. We chit chatted , hogged , laughed and had fun...And then at 1.30 am in the morning we went to the coffee shop in Leela Palace and we were there till 4:30 am in the morning having fun.... We clicked a lot of photographs and chit chatted a lot.....I was very sleepy but all that mattered to me was the smile on Ammu's face...She was very happy.....

It was then i realised it again that something that gives me internal happiness is when i do something which bring a smile on other's face and makes them happy......









Hmmm.... After so many days i truly loved a movie..Rocket Singh-Salesman of the year.. i watched it for the second time today.. Every scene in it reminds me of some or the other person i have come across in my life or some or the other incident that has occurred in my life..People at times are so proud and confident about the position they hold that they sometimes don't even realize what they are speaking to their sub-ordinates...Even the sales guys are humans... They also have feelings.... But at times their bosses forget this... They are given targets that can never be achieved....One field where your past performance will be forgotten.. What will be seen is how is your present doing.....

The movie shows that it doesn't matter if you are a topper in your college days or not and how much marks you scored..All that matters is your attitude towards life....There are students who never study throughout the year and manage passing by getting decent marks... I was one of them... I never wanted to be a topper but i never wanted to be the person in the bottom line also..... I never used to study during the exams..Used to open my book in the morning just an hour before the exam...Then close it in the next two minutes ....Then either read through the slides or go to someone to just understand few concepts... There used to be people around me whom i have heard saying she doesn't study at all.. How will she get a job.....And the same people sat with me in the interview process in which i got a job and they didn't.....Today i would just like to tell all of them.....Guys mugging up things won't help neither back biting does..... Understanding things is the most important and ya at the end of the day all that matters to the interviewer is your attitude towards life, job and the company...............


Emmm........When i think about friendship and friends...... I feel that i am really lucky......Touch wood.....

What is friendship all about.....??????
It's a mixture of smile and tears, fights and love,arguments and what not.... I have had friends in almost all in the phases of my life.......

My friends where there when i was upset...They were there with me when i cried......
They were there with me when i did mistakes and unlike anyone who just wouldn't care to correct you and let it be as it is ,they corrected me.....
They were there to celebrate my success...They were there to laugh with me.....
They where there to hide my mistakes and help me rectify them.....
They were there to listen to all my nonsensical talks and still smile and never complain....

Unlike other people who have one or two friends i m blessed with lots of friends.....Today i would like to thank all of them for being with me in all the ups and downs of my life.....

Shail--I have been knowing her from past 5 years now and she is still the same....Sweet,loving,caring and protective......One thing that i like about her is that she is not fake unlike others .....She never hides anything from me and neither i hide from her..Though at times i am scared from telling her mistakes that i commit but at the end of the day i just cant stop myself from telling her everything.....When we are together we dont need anyone along with us....We both can have fun together.............

Ruchi- Ruchi...is a gem of a person...She is a sweetheart...More then a Friend she has been an elder sister to me... We have had our share of fun....Fights...tears and laughter.....She is the same in and out.....One genuine person on earth....Someone whom you can look upto when you dont know what to do and whom to approach..she would give unbiased suggestions if you ask her for...Very practical in life....she has taught me a lot of things in life..The most important thing is differentiating right or wrong....She knows me more than anyone else in this world.....Love her a lot.........

Sid and Sharad--- When i think of my friendship with Sid and Sharad i remember the movie Dostana .....One girl with two friends whom she can trust and rely on .....The song "Jane kyun Dil janta hai....Tu hai to I"ll be alrite" goes to both of you.....Both of them have treated me like a kid...Loved me a lot and pampered me......Thanks for being there......i have hurted sid a lot of times but he has never complained....he has still stood beside me when i was alone and needed a fren.....Sid you are just the best....Sharad is one person who can do anything for our friendship.....He s so damn funny.....Whenever i am upset he would make me laugh by his stupid PJ's.....U guys rock................

Nidz and Rohit--- The best couple i have ever met....Unlike other couples where only one of them is my friend...here both of them are my best friends.....Rohit my sweet nepali marwadi is a darling.....Hears little less and would be asking half of the times what what and what....Doesn't understand the short forms that i use while i chat with him or text him...So Rohit this is the reason i am using complete words in this post so that you can understand......Nidz is a darling....Full of life and is a fun loving girl.....i have learnt from her how to be brave..She was the one who motivated me to blog.... Loves her RD(Rohit Dhanawat) ....She is the most brave girl i have ever met.....Loves partying...Blogging..Listenin to good music...and what not....Nidz be the same..... I love you a lot...and you and Rohit are really important in my life...Thanks for always being there by my side.....And ya marry Buddy The Bitch soon...I dont like her

MJ--Lakshmi Narayan- he is a rockstar....he is the one who is tortured the most by me...I shout on him....i cry before him and sometimes irritate him to the core..But he has been the same....The reason why i haven't written a testimonial for you till date is....I dont know what to write about you.....You are a true friend...A gem....i get puzzled....when i sit down to write about you and that is what is happening to me right now...he is Mr.Geek and i am the ghost of his story...you are a true rockstar....sometimes i feel that i am talking to a walking encyclopedia when i talk to him...He is simply brilliant....He is the dude..

Vibhor- Hamare pyare Papa...That's what we used to call him in college...Now for the reason behind calling him papa you have to contact him only...He would tell you the reason behind this...Papa has been a precious person in my life...A brother, a guide at times and a really good friend...Me and papa have some similar interests like watching the movie as soon as it releases...Listening to good music, though our definition of good music is little different....Eating good food....Shopping...I admire papa for his commitment...Though he is equally lazy as i am...But towards certain things he is really committed....I admire him for that....Thanks for always being there as an elder brother and guiding me.......................

Ammu-I share a special relation with ammu..She is my roomie, loomie and my colleague.... She is great fun to be with...Is well balanced....Unlike me she is very matured.... keeps neglecting my stupid activities.....I have forced her to sit with me and watch all the saas bahu serials,and al the masala typo serials and shows that come on television...She is a good cook..i sometimes wonder after a long hard day how does she manage gathering energy to cook...Hats off to her... Guides me from time to time of what i should do and i shouldn't....Explains me the pros and cons of everything..She is a wonderful friend, then a roomie and then a colleague..........

Thanks to all my friends whose name i couldn't mention here...Thanks for always being there with me...Life would have been so incomplete without friends like you.....

Now finally why did i write this post.....Today Sharad called me and asked me a simple question...."Neha when you will get married...You will forget us and our friendship "and i told him No....You all would be the same to me...Atleast those whose name i have mentioned here.....

We would be friends forever.....

A song dedicated for all you guys out there.......

"ye dosti hum nahi chodengay"
Chodengay dum agar
Tera sath na Chodengay"

LOVE YA ALL
THANKS FOR BEING A PART OF MY SWEET LITTLE WORLD